I’ve been doing a lot of weddings recently that involve children from previous marriages. I wrote this piece to serve as a reminder to parents who divorce to be hyper-vigilant in helping children to process their experience of the family breakup. I had feedback from a friend who was reluctant to pass this article along to her friend who is getting divorced because she felt my language was too “dire”. I think parents need a real wakeup call to look below the surface of the child’s behavior, to deepen communication, and to enlist professional help if at all possible – even if they see no signs – these actions signal to the child that this is a high impact event in their lives and it is normal to be upset.
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